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PAE Model for Counseling

Child​

  • We begin with the child, which represents our unconscious part through Mars and the Moon. This part is what feels things, our sense of happiness or our separation from God, or our desire to connect with others or to ask for help. Our desire to connect stems from our incarnation, which is felt as a separation from God. For example, a criminal kills someone to connect with that person - it's in a way their "communion" with God. All criminals have a traumatized child.
  • This unconscious part is very important and is often traumatized. Depending on the position of Mars, the Moon, and their respective Signs, we can assess the difficulty of this trauma. The "Adult" planets will show the capacity to change the child.
  • Mars shows the capacity to work in this direction with our focus. The Moon is our connection to ourselves, our emotions, but also our capacity to be open-minded, to live in the moment, to take pleasure in life.
  • The child part is the most deeply rooted part - an uncontrollable behavior that escapes us and is linked to our experiences from 0 to 3 years old, including the third year. We can use months for more precision. For example, being "paranoid" often develops during the period from 12 to 24 months, which is linked to Scorpio. This is why we often struggle with Scorpio - it's due to the fact that a Scorpio in difficulty is uncontrollable or seems uncontrollable if we don't take into account the traumas linked to this Sign.
  • It's important not to blame ourselves for the problems that develop in our child or our unconscious child (personal) because these are events linked to incarnation that are often impossible to control. If we observe how trauma develops, we'll realize that parents always wanted the best for the child, but their notion of "best" is never perfect. Or life events mean we didn't pay attention to the child - simple events like the birth of another child can traumatize the previous child, or a dispute between parents, or depression, or our country being at war, or AIDS, or Covid, or lack of money. There's always something that makes being a parent impossible.
  • The parent and child are respective images of our relationship with ourselves. By looking at astrology, we see our difficulties but also our skills, our life choices, and we can change these behaviors. But often it's we ourselves who decide not to change or to change. For more details, I recommend reading two books that tell the experiences of people who sought to understand how to change with complete simplicity: Thomas Harris's "I'm OK, You're OK" (the translation exists in French under the name "D'accord avec soi et les autres"), and Clancy D. McKenzie M.D.'s book "Babies Need Mothers: How Mothers Can Prevent Mental Illness in their Children," which doesn't seem to have a French translation.

Adult​

  • The adult is the one who wants to change, either through the study of physical reality (Mercury), or through Venus (art, poetry, and teaching), or through Jupiter (spirituality - the Guru according to the Vedic definition meaning "Heavy," heavy with knowledge).
  • The Adults are objectives and don't represent our Consciousness, which are the Moon and the Sun. We mustn't confuse these planets with ourselves and lose ourselves through them, thinking we've become a perfect voice of "God" or believing we know everything. The "worst" teacher is one who thinks they know everything. We have moments where we see part of the truth, but we don't become that "perfect" truth on Earth. We advance in that direction, but we are not that direction - don't confuse the path of life with who we are. The unconscious often takes over, so we shouldn't reproach ourselves too much for sometimes being in an "exaltation of consciousness" where we believe we're advancing in the right direction. Making mistakes is normal - it's Sagittarius's learning: aiming in a direction with the arrow of our life and believing we're succeeding. Staying in our mistakes repetitively is different, and this will be seen by studying the planets. The nuance between the two is understood by practicing Sagittarius skills in a single direction - the one we think is right. This doesn't mean other directions are false, but during this moment of concentration, everything else seems false. Some people struggle with Sagittarius or its opposite, Gemini, which is the study of all possible directions through Mercury. There are sometimes Adult conflicts in Adult planet relationships that are often seen in so-called "spiritual" groups. Here I've just explained a conflict between Jupiter and Mercury. This conflict will be seen with Science against Spirituality, the study of the invisible (Jupiter) and the visible (Mercury), theory or practice. This mixture is seen with the planetary placements of Jupiter, Mercury, but also Venus and their respective Signs.
  • People who have very few or almost no strong Adult planets will have difficulty changing in their life and will need others to begin advancing in the right direction. The person who is their own teacher while listening to others teach learns faster than the one who doesn't teach themselves. The "true" teacher applies their discoveries to themselves with the goal of advancing.
  • There's always a small part of Adult behavior that is healthy, seen through the Avasthas, just as the one seen as a "Saint" by the "community" also has flaws linked to their incarnation on Earth. No incarnated being on Earth has a perfect life, even Avatars. Avatars on Earth represent an attainable perfection on Earth and not the "true" spirituality, which is a "feeling" or an energy or a presence.

Parent​

  • The parent is seen through Saturn and the Sun. The Sun has a particular status because it also represents our consciousness, but it can show pathologies through the relationships it has with other planets. The Sun's placement in a Sign doesn't represent a pathology but a choice the person made during their incarnation. This incarnation can be more or less difficult depending on the chosen Sign, because some Signs are more "easy" or "spiritual" than others and thus favor growth that seems to go in a good direction. This is seen through the Avasthas.
  • Saturn represents the Feminine parent and the Sun the Masculine parent.
  • Parents don't change and are fixed in their behaviors, and are often in conflict with the child part or their own children if we consider our direct experience.
  • Parents give life rules with the goal of living correctly. The quality of these rules depends on the Avasthas. If they're positive, the person had parents who had good life rules, and the inverse if the Avasthas are difficult. A person is never black or white - there are always nuances of positive and negative, even in the worst criminals or in "saints."
  • During significant trauma, it's sometimes important to distance oneself from one's parents or to work on the Parents at the same time as with the children. There's sometimes unconscious hatred toward parents because from the child's point of view, the parent seems at fault, and from the Parent's point of view, the child seems at fault. So there's an unconscious war between parents and child. This war is seen through the creation story of Avatar Kurma (Saturn). In this story, the "Devas" fight against the "Asuras" for the right to Amrita (nectar of immortality). Only Adults can improve this conflict by offering possibilities for change. So it's good to ask for external advice to improve a conflictual situation, or to distance oneself from parents, or to let one's child make their own decisions depending on the planet affected by a pathology.
  • There's a behavior not to have to resolve a pathology. For the most "rooted" pathologies, we behave this way without realizing it, and even if we know it consciously, we tend to forget it because it requires effort from the Adult planets. These efforts are linked to Mercury (physical reality, concrete facts, or communication), Venus (compassion through life choices that bring nourishing connection for the child), Jupiter (knowledge from a Guru that brings divine connection or the impression of not being alone but surrounded by people who can bring us spiritual connection).

How to Heal?​

  • The simple act of recounting the traumatic event while recognizing that these events are neither the parent's nor the child's fault (Mercury) - the facts as they happened in a neutral manner - resolving the conflict through adult behavior of Mercurian neutrality. Mercury is both a child and an Adult; it's the link between the Adult and the Child. Mercury represents the transition to Adulthood between 4 and 12 years old.

  • Venus's diplomacy or poetry, compassion, sharing through the balance of Libra, Venus's Sign. Neither parents nor child are at fault - no longer being at war through inner peace, the feeling of well-being by making life choices that bring us well-being.

  • Being above conflicts by not speaking but by letting an energy of positivity through our relationships. Learning to feel good with our own spirituality, our own energy, our own relationship with our inner peace.

  • Meditating on spiritual texts, the meaning of words or sutras (verses).

  • Drawing a card (cartomancy or tarot) every day, meditating on the meaning of this card that represents an important moment of our day.

  • Meditating on the symbolism of numbers linked to planets and cards or numerology.

  • Doing mantras (affirmations) on the planets - Ryan Kurczak's Mantras on planets available on YouTube.

  • Watching the YouTube videos I've made, seeking to understand the relationships that planets have with each other, or learning the Avasthas.

  • Looking at the appearance of Avatars and understanding the symbolic reason for their appearances.

  • Seeing God through each person you meet, even your worst enemies. The more something bothers you, the more there's a hidden reason you're unconsciously trying to avoid. Take your time - a kingdom of inner peace isn't built in a day.

  • Reading the books I recommended ;)