PAE Psychology: Parent, Adult, Child

How to understand your birth, your children, your parents, and the stages of your life—what an Adult is and how to become one?

In astrology, there are fixed periods that remain the same for every individual, plus periods that change according to the lunar mansion (nakshatra) in which the Moon resides (Vimshottari). Here I will explain the part that does not change and is identical for everyone. This will also clarify what we are meant to accomplish during these periods and what the child’s parents are expected to provide. Each planet offers insight into what a person experiences—or fails to experience—if that planet or its associated signs are afflicted.

I offer here an astrological perspective on the major life phases from birth to 120 years. I describe the role of the various planets in shaping a person’s experiences and development during these phases, focusing on aspects such as self-image, autonomy, learning, love, life goals, wisdom, leadership, and finally self-questioning.

The Moon Period (0–1 year): “Inner Feminine Child”

At birth, the Moon represents one’s relationship with their mother. The easier that bond, the healthier the child’s emotional self-image—like seeing a clear reflection in a mirror. If a person cannot smile naturally, struggle to show genuine emotion, adopt a false persona, or feels inner confusion, it often traces back to this Moon period.

Trauma at this stage is extremely hard to manage and can render someone asocial or unable to accept themselves—sometimes worse, in the most extreme cases. Almost everyone carries some wounding from age 0–1. Thomas Harris’s book I’m OK, You’re OK describes this phenomenon well, detailing the unconscious processes of an infant. It’s a highly sensitive time, difficult for both mother and father—because even an absent father can trigger feelings of abandonment. A mother cannot be indifferent to her own life events; even if she claims the father’s presence “doesn’t matter,” his absence or conflicts with her are recorded in the child’s subconscious. Though nothing is “rational” at this age, these events can later be accessed through hypnosis or regression therapy.

You can verify such unconscious traumas through graphology, palm reading, astrology, and even physical appearance. In astrology, I use the following techniques—most of which can be calculated automatically by software—to assess trauma during this period:

• Moon placement by sign and house: The Moon is strongest in Taurus and the 4th house. The closer it sits to Taurus or the 4th house cusp, the stronger it is, regardless of its sign—though the sign also matters.
• Moon–Sun proximity: A New Moon (Moon conjunct Sun) is the Moon’s weakest point (combustion), while the Full Moon is its strongest. Any planet too close to the Sun is considered combust.
• Retrograde factor: A planet appears to move “backward” when it’s far from the Sun; retrograde planets are actually strong. Strength doesn’t equate to gentleness—Mercury can be strong yet cold, whereas a strong Moon is nurturing.
• Cancer sign check: If Saturn or Rahu (North Node) occupies Cancer, this signals a Moon trauma.
• Moon lord: Examine the condition of the planet ruling the Moon’s sign. If the Moon rules its own sign (Cancer), it’s naturally strong—though no single factor can compensate if everything else is weak. Every planet rules two signs, except the Moon and the Sun.
• Lajjitādi Avasthās for the Moon and its lord (positive or negative states).
• Lajjitādi Avasthās within Cancer (see the description at the end).

The Mars Period: 1–3 years “Inner Masculine Child”

During this period, the child begins to become a bit more autonomous but still depends heavily on his mother for nourishment. It’s also a time of coping with teething pain, which can be traumatic both for the child and for the parents—who may grow frustrated by their child’s constant crying. This stage teaches the child to ask for help and to receive it; trauma here is particularly hard to manage and can lead to various adult issues, most commonly an inability or difficulty in becoming independent and working, or excessive aggression or competitiveness. Mars governs how one manages siblings in childhood—and later neighbors, coworkers, or teammates in sports like football. If someone struggles with siblings or teamwork, they often have a challenged Mars. Only children frequently have trouble with healthy competition or prefer being alone. Generally, a person with a strong Mars is assertive only when useful—you might compare Mars to a firefighter who saves lives, not to a boxer who flies into a rage whenever his ego is bruised. A strong Mars conserves its energy; that is why Mars is exalted in Capricorn (ruled by Saturn).

To determine whether this period is favorable, check:

• Mars placement by sign and house: Mars is strongest in Capricorn and the 10th house. As with the Moon, note its distance from these points.
• Combustion/retrograde: If Mars is too close to the Sun, it’s combust (weak); if retrograde, it cannot be combust even if it appears so on the 2D chart. This applies even more to Mercury and Venus, which are always near the Sun in astrology charts.
• Scorpio and Aries : If Saturn or Rahu occupy either sign, that signals trauma—especially if both sit in Aries around 1968, a famously difficult year for Mars (think sudden anger outbursts, à la the Hulk actor born in ’68).
• Mars’s lord: Evaluate the condition of the planet ruling Mars’s sign; if that lord is weak, Mars will struggle.
• Lajjitādi Avasthās for Mars and its lord (positive or negative states).
• Lajjitādi Avasthās within Scorpio and Aries.

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The Mercury Period: 3–12 years “Developing Neutral Adult”

This is the phase when the adult self begins to emerge. It’s when the child thinks, “I’m OK, you’re OK” (Thomas Harris), starts to understand their environment, and feels well for the first time—no longer dependent on someone else to survive. Mercury, the planet of communication, symbolizes this transition and is tied to the “4” of earthly stability. In Vedic astrology, Mercury is associated with Vishnu. Speech or learning difficulties during this period often indicate trouble understanding others or reality. The most common cause is an overprotective parent who stifles the child’s natural curiosity. The more trauma in the first three stages, the harder social adaptation becomes here. A Mercury trauma shows up as learning challenges and often leads people to mistake communication issues for lack of intelligence. But Mercury isn’t intelligence—it’s the ability to make friends and communicate neutrally. In many societies, friendship is a foundation of social life; without friends, one can be excluded. France, for instance, has its own unique friendship culture (to be explored in a future video).

In astrology, for Mercury, check:

• Mercury placement by sign and house: Best in Virgo and the 1st house (Ascendant). Verify combustion; most Western and Vedic software get this wrong. A retrograde Mercury cannot be combust—retrograde here indicates a supportive “masculine” (Sun) presence that let the child explore and err.
• Gemini and Virgo : Rahu and Saturn in Gemini around 2002, or in Virgo around 1978, mark Mercury traumas—worsened if other planets co-occupy those signs.
• Mercury’s lord: Mercury is exalted in the first 15° of Virgo—its own exaltation.
• Lajjitādi Avasthās for Mercury and its lord (positive or negative).
• Lajjitādi Avasthās within Gemini and Virgo.

If you’ve read this far, you’ll see it’s impossible to have zero trauma. Hindu traditions likewise teach that no one incarnates perfectly—Avatars and even Jesus had flaws. Only those with extreme wounds imagine themselves perfectly “holy.” (See Harris’s I’m OK, You’re OK, French title D’accord avec soi et les autres.) The upcoming Jupiter period often inversely mirrors Mercury’s issues; many deemed “spiritual” have Jupiter far stronger than Mercury—myself included!

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The Venus Period: 12–32 years “Feminine Adult”

Beginning around age 12, hormones and the choices one makes in love (and for the long term) come into play. Venus rules this phase: a time when an “adult” makes decisions that bring satisfaction in life. Difficulty here shows as trouble understanding life’s nuances, poor diplomacy, or clumsy seduction. Venus governs sweetness, compassion, physical health, appearance, and the reactions our looks provoke. Trauma in this period may manifest as body-image issues or hormonal problems. Venus also represents the long-term planning “teacher” within—that part of us making lasting decisions. If wounded, one may struggle to be true to oneself, to become independent, or to respect oneself and others—sometimes leading to relationship aggression. Venus and Mars are interdependent; afflictions in one amplify issues in the other.

To see if this period is satisfactory, check:

• Venus placement by sign and house: Best in Pisces and the 4th house. Check combustion as with Mercury.
• Taurus and Libra : Both ruled by Venus. Rahu in these signs causes trauma; Saturn in Taurus also troubles Venus. Libra can handle Saturn by saying “no” to what’s harmful.
• Venus’s lord.
• Lajjitādi Avasthās for Venus and its lord (positive or negative).
• Lajjitādi Avasthās within Taurus and Libra.

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Jupiter Period: Age 32 to 50 — "Masculine Adult"

The period that begins at age 32 is linked to life goals and forming connections that bring joy and positivity. Jupiter represents wisdom and the ability to be enthusiastic — to see the good despite the many problems in society. Therefore, this can be a time of spiritual or political involvement, managing one’s family or children, or dealing with what we consider our "children" — our legacy after death.

It’s often the time when a person builds their marriage or long-term life projects. Difficulties during this phase can bring depression or a struggle to find meaning. A strong Jupiter gives a taste for the invisible — things that cannot be seen but are felt inwardly. A weak Jupiter, especially if Mercury is also afflicted, can result in a superficial drive to get rich. Since Jupiter and Mercury are interdependent, problems with one will amplify issues with the other.

If Mercury is weak and Jupiter strong, a person might focus too much on the spiritual and lose touch with reality (being "spaced out"). Jupiter governs what doesn’t exist in the material world — like the concept of money, a spiritual agreement within society — whereas Mercury rules everything concrete and measurable, like the Earth. That’s why Mercury is exalted in Virgo (a sign of realism), while Jupiter is exalted in Cancer (a sign of emotional connection).

Jupiter gives meaning to life through spiritual connection. The only real way to connect to a woman (Cancer) is spiritually — while also respecting the real-world friendship symbolized by Mercury. Few people achieve this in a society lacking social cohesion.

Jupiter provides long-term life goals. Many with a weak Jupiter — or who are under 32 — may mistakenly believe Jupiter’s goals are attainable on Earth and may present themselves as spiritual gurus. They place themselves in God’s position and create religions based on dogma.

A very strong Jupiter shows someone tolerant, even toward religions, recognizing them as well-intentioned beginnings. Such a person undergoes spiritual questioning (Cancer is not a fixed sign), evolving like a crab. Those who don’t evolve with society or who reject women (or the feminine principle) often have a weak Jupiter.

A strong Jupiter judges rightly — but doesn't judge to feel superior. It’s associated with transmitting spiritual emotion, good cheer, inner enthusiasm — not through words but through presence.

How to analyze Jupiter:

• Jupiter's placement by sign and house. Jupiter is best placed in Cancer and in the 1st house (Ascendant). It represents self-knowledge. If in the 7th house, Jupiter seeks to change others to change itself — which rarely works. (Example: Emmanuel Macron has Jupiter in the 7th house.)
• If combust by the Sun, Jupiter becomes invisible but still supports the Sun — at the cost of spirituality. This creates someone confident but potentially depressed.
• If retrograde, Jupiter disconnects from the spirituality of the parents, forming a unique worldview and educating the next generation differently.

Also check:

• Sagittarius and Pisces . In January 2025, Pisces will host both Rahu and Saturn. Those born during this time may struggle with spirituality. Like my teacher, I don't recommend having children during this period. Global events reflect this: trust in politics is collapsing, and the new generation often doesn't want children.

The last time this happened was in February 1877, marking a significant spiritual shift — Edgar Cayce was born then. Something similar is expected in 2025. We’re already feeling it — Saturn is already in Pisces, and Rahu is slowly approaching.

Excerpt from Edgar Cayce’s biography (translated from Wikipedia): Cayce said that after his teacher complained about his focus, his father angrily tested him on spelling and knocked him from his chair. That night, he heard a winged woman (possibly imagination or self-hypnosis, as Milton Erickson would describe) tell him to sleep, and "they" would help. He fell asleep with his head on his book. Upon waking, he knew all the answers. His father, suspecting trickery, knocked him down again. Cayce claimed he studied this way afterward — by sleeping on his books — and became top of his class. He described seeing images of the book pages.

Cayce also suffered vocal cord problems and couldn’t speak for a time. He had Mercury in Pisces with Rahu and Saturn, which, through Lajjitadi Avasthas, shows why communication was blocked (Mercury and Jupiter both rule speech). This is a simplified explanation — the full analysis of physical issues is more complex.

• Check Jupiter's dispositor (ruling planet)

• Check Lajjitadi Avasthas (positive or negative dignities) of Jupiter and its lord

• Check Lajjitadi Avasthas within Sagittarius and Pisces

  • In Cayce’s case, Pisces is highly afflicted. People wrongly believe he was a perfect spiritual incarnation. In truth, he had a very difficult life.

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Sun Period: Age 50 to 70 — "Masculine Parent"

This period is tied to leadership and the potential to become significant in society. It depends largely on the foundation built during Jupiter’s period.

Difficulties here show an inability to trust oneself. The Sun represents the masculine parent but also personal consciousness. This parent symbolizes life’s rules and the boundaries we impose on ourselves out of respect or honor. The Sun is pride through dignity (not Mercury’s social respect). A true leader does not need to advertise — leadership isn’t marketing.

Education from our parents and our perception of the world (as good or bad) are crucial here.

A troubled Sun may reveal a tyrant or someone who tries to dominate or lacks confidence and becomes passive. This person may lack inner structure or “a head on their shoulders.”

The Sun governs the skeleton. Fragile bones may reflect a weak Sun. An injury or broken bone can reflect a solar lesson, often followed by a spiritual awakening.

A healthy Sun gives warmth, vitality, generosity — the traits of someone who shines and supports others. It’s associated with the spine and back.

Those betrayed in leadership roles may have a weakened Sun — especially if Saturn opposes or conjuncts it.

The Sun also governs body heat and inner enthusiasm. One aligned with their Dharma naturally radiates energy that draws others in — without fear of betrayal, because they are at peace with themselves.

The Sun also gives solitude and the ability to meditate. If it’s the only strong planet in the chart, it may produce a lone leader, potentially seen as narcissistic — common in men with a strong Sun and a weak Moon.

Key points to analyze:

• Sun’s placement by sign and house: Best in Aries and the 10th house
• Leo
• Sun’s ruler
• Lajjitadi Avasthas of the Sun and its ruler
• Lajjitadi Avasthas within the Leo sign

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Saturn Period: Age 70 to 120 — "Feminine Parent"

Saturn symbolizes the capacity to manage life’s hardships, to be patient, to deal with psychological and physical flaws — even having an “imperfect” nose.

A person with a strong Saturn isn’t bothered by flaws, though they’ll take care of their body. Saturn is linked to rest, solitude, and the ability to endure tough times without complaint. It’s also linked to Time — the astrological clock (Kala).

Self-understanding and questioning oneself are Saturn traits. A strong Saturn means someone who never gives up, no matter how pessimistic the situation appears.

It brings tenacity, a survival instinct, and respect for nature, labor, agriculture, and humble service. This is why Saturn relates to the people’s leader — someone respected for being grounded and close to the Earth.

Saturn also represents rejection, and the ability to say "no". A strong Saturn isn’t afraid of being rejected and can even take pride in it — if it’s for the right reasons. All exalted planets give some form of pride — and pride is often rejected in society.

Saturn is exalted in Libra — meaning it gains strength when balanced or socially rejected. People with strong Saturns often grow through rejection.

Saturn faces many enemies — planets are like people: some love each other, some don’t.

How to analyze Saturn:

• Placement by sign and house: Best in Libra and the 7th house

  • Saturn on the Ascendant causes the most challenges — traumas related to the body, personality, and life path.
  • A weak Saturn may give the illusion of a happy life, but inside, the person feels powerless, as if cursed by misfortune.
  • Weak Saturn = inability to say "no" = attracting problems, like leaving your house doors open — nice in theory, disastrous in practice.

• Aquarius and Capricorn :

  • Saturn in Aquarius causes fewer problems and offers long-term skill development.
  • Rahu in Aquarius or Capricorn causes trauma.
  • Libra, Aquarius, Capricorn — in that order — handle Saturn best.
  • These signs, when aligned with Saturn and Rahu, produce mature individuals.
  • But problems can still arise — maturity doesn’t mean the absence of hardship.

A strong Saturn doesn’t ensure happiness. Saturn is the planet of survival, not joy. Happiness depends on overcoming fear. One who lives in fear of the enemy isn’t happy — but Saturn helps us appreciate life despite overwhelming challenges.

Also check:

• Saturn’s ruler
• Lajjitadi Avasthas of Saturn and its ruler
• Lajjitadi Avasthas within Aquarius and Capricorn

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Lajjitadi Avasthas

Lajjitadi Avasthas is a system that calculates friendship or hostility points between planets. It’s a framework used to evaluate all favorable, unfavorable, or neutral planetary conjunctions. In Western (Greek-based) astrology, people often spend years trying to understand every planetary combination—conjunctions, oppositions, and especially the dreaded "squares." Lajjitadi simplifies this process with a more human-centered view: planets are either friends, enemies, or neutral—just like relationships between people.

The term Lajjitadi means shame, and in the worst cases, one planet can bring shame to another. This occurs when a specific combination forms involving a so-called “cruel” or “harsh” planet—namely the Sun, Mars, or Saturn. The term “cruel” is often mistranslated; it doesn’t mean evil, but rather represents characteristics like:

• Sun: knowing how to be respectful,
• Mars: being competitive,
• Saturn: being different, contradictory, or oppositional.

A combination involving Rahu (North Node) or Ketu (South Node) with one of these “cruel” planets and another planet can create shame. For example, Sun + Rahu + Mercury causes Mercury to experience shame.

Shame also arises when a “cruel” planet is in conjunction with another in the 5th house. This system doesn't rely on the exact degree of conjunction—just being in the same sign is enough to trigger it. A sign or house is like a room; sharing space with an enemy creates discomfort, hostility, or even shame.

For instance, Mars and Moon in the 5th house cause the Moon to feel shame. Practically, this means the person has a deep wound connected to the inner feminine child, a theme from the age period previously described. It usually signals a major trauma during that stage of life. (This is simplified—many nuances apply when interpreting trauma.)

There are also Avasthas of pride, which occur when a planet is in its sign of exaltation. This is the opposite of shame and gives a person inner confidence to face life’s challenges with maturity.

Shame and pride can sometimes coexist. So can shame with friendship, or shame with hostility. All combinations are possible. The system is easy to grasp, but results can become complex, especially when many planets are conjunct Rahu, Ketu, or placed in the 5th house.

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Do Planets Go to War? Friendships, Hostilities, or Neutralities

Lajjitadi Avasthas are based on the relationships between planets. A planet placed in the sign of an enemy feels similarly to being in conjunction with that enemy. For example, Mars in Mercury’s sign is hindered because Mercury is an enemy of Mars.

Just like in real life, friendship is not always mutual:

• Mercury helps the Moon, but the Moon doesn’t help Mercury.
• Some planets are mutual enemies—these combinations (especially conjunctions or oppositions) are the most difficult.
• Mutual friendships, like between Mars and Jupiter, are highly beneficial and often create Yogas (combinations that bring success).

In Indian astrology, Yogas are similar to the conjunction-based approach of Western astrology—there are so many that it’s almost impossible to list them all. However, the most important Yogas are already embedded within the rules of Avasthas. They just require deep thinking to understand.

By contrast, many Yogas are translations from old texts and can be misunderstood or mistranslated—like the Bible, where some people claim Satan is inherently evil, while in fact Satan is the symbolic equivalent of Saturn. Saturn is not an enemy to be destroyed—it’s like a plant or the human body: an essential part of life. People with a Sun–Saturn opposition often see Saturn (or Satan) as an enemy, confusing their core meaning.

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Examples are marked in red:

Planet toward another	Friendship	Neutral	Hostile	Example	Example behavior in this Avastha
Sun	Moon, Mars, Jupiter	Mercury	Venus, Saturn	Moon helps the Sun	A feminine emotion or figure helps boost self-confidence. When I was young, I felt my mother's warmth give me inner strength. When I fear being myself, I think of her and feel radiant.
Moon	Sun, Mercury	Mars, Jupiter, Venus, Saturn	none	Mars is neutral toward Moon	Competitiveness doesn't affect my emotions. Even if I win, I feel the same. My body obeys my inner feeling. As long as I feel good, I act well and don’t feel hunger.
Mars	Sun, Moon, Jupiter	Venus, Saturn	Mercury	Mercury hinders Mars	Talking instead of acting. I overthink at a stop sign instead of just braking. I almost caused an accident by distracting a firefighter with questions. Mars acts through physical instinct, not intellect.
Mercury	Sun, Venus	Mars, Jupiter, Saturn	Moon	Sun helps Mercury	Self-confidence allows for better communication. A masculine parent who gives space to explore helps the child speak clearly and precisely.
Jupiter	Sun, Moon, Mars	Saturn	Mercury, Venus	Mars helps Jupiter	Being competitive gives me faith in the future. My strong character shaped me. My mother gave me an example of inner strength. This combination creates a yoga for success.
Venus	Mercury, Saturn	Mars, Jupiter	Sun, Moon	Moon hinders Venus	My emotions block my life choices. I dated someone based on how I felt rather than on Venus's desire for lasting satisfaction.
Saturn	Mercury, Venus	Jupiter	Sun, Moon, Mars	Sun hinders Saturn	I confuse what I should reject. I accept things that go against my nature. I fear being mean by saying no. I handle others' problems instead of protecting my own space. This creates a repeating enemy cycle.

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Special Cases

• Jupiter and Saturn have unique characteristics:

  • Jupiter helps any planet it is conjunct with (in the same sign), even if they aren’t friends.

  • Saturn does the opposite: any planet conjunct Saturn is said to be in famine or depression.

    • Jupiter + Venus: Jupiter helps Venus but sacrifices itself—even though they’re not friends.
    • Saturn + Venus: Saturn destroys Venus, even though they’re considered friends.

• The Sun also destroys any planet in the same sign due to its overpowering brightness, but still helps its friends at the same time.

  • With friends, the result is neutral—there are ups and downs, but the planet is weakened by proximity to the Sun (as explained earlier).
  • This is logical: the Sun is the largest celestial body, and it blocks the visibility (and power) of other planets near it.